Nobody puts Baby in the corner!

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When we keep ourselves small, how do we live?
When we keep ourselves small, who does it benefit?
When we keep ourselves small, what joy do we bring to the world?
When we keep ourselves small, how do we help others?
When we keep ourselves small, how do we fulfill our purpose in life?

When we say we’re not good enough – who’s voice is it?
When we say we’re not worthy – who decided it?
When we keep ourselves small, how do we, and why do we exist?

We would not put baby in the corner… no one puts baby in the corner.
If you keep yourself small – you need to stop it.

Do what you came into this world to do.
Be who you came into this world to be.
And that’s all there is to it.

Raising Unconditional Love…

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When we have a child, we love, care and nurture them.
We guide them through their childhood in hope that they grow up to be
beautiful, evolved, individuals who can think and fend for themselves.
We hope they are all the things that we strive to be and more.
We hope they fulfill their soul/life’s purpose and their true potential. 

As parents, we have for our children: so many wishes, dreams, desires…
we hope, they are able to achieve all of them. We can hope… We cannot expect.
We hope: then we have to let go and accept, unconditionally… that they will be, who they are – not who we want them to be.
They will have their own journey, not necessarily, the journey we envision for them…
Just as our parents have to let go and accept that many of us
are not living the lives they want for us…

 Most of us do not have the job, career, partner, home, our parents wanted for us.
Most of us, have struggled with being who we are,
against our parent’s idea of who we should be… 
And yet some of us, have convinced ourselves:
we are an extension of our parents and continue to live out our lives
by their expectations instead of following our own heart/soul desires.
We live for their love and approval… And so for most of us –
we know not, unconditional love. 

 So, how do we teach, show, demonstrate unconditional love to our kids
when we were not raised this way?
In fact, we are resentful, hurt, that many of our parents are not who we want them to be.
They are not the role models we want or wished for.
They are not evolved, enlightened, forgiving, insightful, wise, respectful, fair…
Furthermore, they have tons of unresolved issues, and now that we have children of our own –
they have regressed into childhood insecurities themselves.
Their flaws and incompetence become painfully obvious. And we in return,
have no patience for them for they raised us with conditional love – what did they expect?

 Additionally, we compare our own parenting skills with that of our parents.
We realize how much more evolved, progressive and loving we are: what, were they thinking?
How could they have treated us like that? We cannot imagine treating our kids the same way.
Our parents should know better! Why weren’t we raised with love, care,
respect, fairness and non-violently? 

 No wonder we battle with unconditional love with ourselves and our children…
no wonder we are not the parents we want to be at every given moment of every given day…
It’s funny… isn’t it? We do not have the parents we want, we cannot be who we want to be, and
our children are not who we want them to be/do not live the lives we want for them. 

 How do we have, and raise, unconditional love?

 Well… we all, have a lot of letting go to do. 
First, let go, forgive and accept ourselves… 
Let go, forgive and accept our parents… 
So we can let go, forgive and accept our children… 
So that one day, they can let go, forgive and accept us. 

If we want to be better parents: it is up to us to break the cycle. 
If our parents could have – they would have. But they didn’t, because they couldn’t.
So it is up to us… We have to. Me. We. I. Me.

8 Body Organ Types

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Chicken breast, blueberry salad, olive oil/vinaigrette dressing, a glass of OJ and a multi-vitamin – beneficial for everyone, right? Not so much.

Take ancient Chinese medicine principals, develop In-Yang theory, develop Sa-Sang theory from In-Yang theory, and you have the “8 Constitutional Medicine”
that has been practiced since the 1800s, and became more widespread in 1962.

What does “8 Constitutional Medicine” mean?
Just as some birds eat grains whereas other birds eat worms… cows eat grass
because of their long intestines, and lions eat meat because of their large livers,
(according to Dr. Lee Jema and Dr. Kwon Dowon), there are 8 different body organ types within the human race. Our organs that constitute the body are not equally balanced in size, strength and power. And the foods that we consume can either: balance our organ equilibrium giving us optimum health, or weaken them creating illness and disease.

The 8 different body organ types are:

Pulmotonia – those born with strong lungs and a weak liver.
Pulmotonia’s are highly creative, inventive, and can be self centered.
They are explorers of a new world and love to discoverer new things.
Yes: All kinds of ocean fishes, shell fishes, green leafy vegetables, rice, barley, buckwheat, red bean, green beans, cucumber, eggplant, banana, strawberry, peach, cherry, persimmon, Vitamin E, cocoa/dark chocolate, ice, swimming, walking.
No: All kinds of meats, fresh water fishes, nuts, root vegetables, flour, pumpkins, peppers, garlic, mushrooms, black grapes, apples, pears, melons, coffee, sugar, MSG, soft drinks, ginseng, Vitamins A, B, C, D, aspirin, alkaline beverages,
hot baths, mountain hiking.

Colonotonia – hyperactive large intestines and a weak gallbladder.
Colonotonia’s are highly ambitious, have a strong will power, very intuitive
and are visionary. They are born to be leaders.
Yes: All kinds of ocean fishes, crab, clam, green leafy vegetables, cucumber, mustard, ginger, black pepper, rice, buckwheat, red bean, green beans, seaweed, strawberry, peach, cherry, persimmon, grapes, cocoa/dark chocolate, swimming, walking.
No: All kinds of meats, fresh water fishes, nuts, root vegetables, flour, pumpkins, garlic, mushrooms, black grapes, apples, pears, melons, coffee, sugar, MSG, soft drinks, ginseng, Vitamins A, C, D, E, aspirin, alkaline beverages, hot baths, mountain hiking.

Hepatonia – strong liver and weak lungs. Hepatonia’s are very bountiful
and generous, risk taking and assertive. Born to be entrepreneurs.
Yes: All kinds of meats, fresh water fishes, nuts root vegetables, rice, flour, soybeans, pumpkins, garlic, mushrooms, apples, pears, watermelon, coffee, milk,
Vitamins A, B, C, D, alkaline beverages, aspirin, hot baths, mountain hiking.
No: All kinds of ocean fishes, shell fishes, green leafty vegetables, raw cabbages, buckwheat, red bean, green beans, cucumber, eggplant, banana, strawberry, peach cherry, green grapes, persimmon, Vitamin E, cocoa/dark chocolate, ice, swimming.

Cholecystonia – hyperactive gallbladder and weak large intestine. Cholecystonia’s are very sociable and outgoing, emotionally sensitive. Prone to alcoholism.
Yes: All kinds of meat, rice, beans, wheat flour, Indian millet, tofu, squash, radishes, lotus root, peas, celery, mushrooms, garlic, chestnut, walnut, pears,
watermelon, milk, sugar, and Vitamins A, B, C, D, E.
No:  All kinds of shell fish, mackerel, squid, nappa, mint, cauliflower, broccoli, eggplant, avocado, peaches, cherries, grapes, grapefruit, mangos, lemons, limes,
coconut, ginseng, chocolate, wine, liquor, IV Glucose.

Pancreotonia – hyperactive pancreas, weak kidney. Pancreotonia’s are highly impulsive, selfless and a devoted philanthropic, loves to eat gourmet foods. Born to be a sweetheart. Yes: Pork, beef, oyster, shrimp, lobster, crab, eel, egg, barley, white rice, flour, soybean, red bean, cabbage, radish, cucumber, carrot, persimmon, pear, melons, watermelon, strawberry, banana, ice, aloe vera, mushrooms, Vitamin E, hot baths.
No: Chicken, lamb, brown rice, sweet rice, potato, sesame oil, seaweed, hot pepper, curry, ginger, green onion, apple, orange, tangerine, lemon, lime, mango, tomato, ginseng, bee honey, date, digestive aide, Vitamin B group, cold bath, swimming.

Gastrotonia – strong stomach and weak bladder.
Gastrotonia’s are very ambiguous and enigmatic, physically strong and enduring.
Yes: Oyster, shrimp, crab, beef, pork, rice, barley, oats, red beans, cactus, peas, nappa, cucumber, broccoli, eggplant, persimmon, avocado, pears, melons,
pineapple, grapes, strawberries, banana, hot baths.
No: Chicken, goat, potatoes, curry, all onions, ginger, squash, seaweed, black pepper, mustard, cinnamon, lemons, limes, grapefruit, tangerines, apples, oranges, mangos, ginseng, honey, Vitamins A, B, D, penicillin, cigarettes, liquor, swimming.

Renotonia – strong kidney and a weak pancreas.
Renotonia’s are very athletic, meticulous and organized. Born to be bureaucrats.
Yes: Chicken, beef, potatoes, corn, peas, squash, sesame seed or oil, seaweed, curry, mustard, black pepper, cinnamon, lettuce, radishes, green onion, ginger, garlic, cauliflower, tomatoes, tangerines, oranges, apples, mangos, peaches,
lemons, limes, grapefruit, honey, ginseng, Vitamin B, swimming.
No: Pork, oysters, crab, shrimp, barley, wheat, flour, nuts, red beans, egg white, oats, mint, cucumbers, cactus, persimmons, coconut, avocado, melon, banana, mushrooms, broccoli, eggplant, celery, beer, ice, Vitamins A, D, E, sauna.

Vesicotonia – strong bladder and a weak stomach. Vesicotonia’s are very quiet and reserved, slow and meticulous. They are prone to chronic depression. Must eat very small amounts of foods, no more than 2 meals a day.
Yes: Chicken, goat, sesame seed or oil, potatoes, corn, spinach, radishes, ginger, green onions, corn, garlic, squash, mustard, black pepper, cinnamon, curry, tomatoes,
lemons, limes, grapefruit, apples, mangos, tangerines, honey,
ginseng, Vitamins A, B, C, D, acidic drinks, cold baths.
No: Oysters, clams, shrimp, crab, pork, all kinds of cold foods, nuts, oats, red beans, egg white, cucumber, cactus, mint, peas, broccoli, mushrooms, cauliflower, celery, eggplant, melon, banana, strawberries, coconut, avocado, beer, ice, liquor, Vitamin E, and sauna.

To find out your body organ type, visit an acupuncturist that uses
8 Constitutional Medicine.

The Importance of Existing…

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itotallymatter.com

How would you feel if people told you that your child was of no importance?
Would you agree, or disagree?
Would you be offended?
Would you feel violated?
Would you get angry? Mad? Upset?

Good.
Because so many of us walk around and feel exactly that: that we are of no importance. In our jobs, in our relationships, in our daily activities… we live as though we are of no importance. That someone who is more ‘successful’ is MORE important. That our boss or the CEO is MORE important. People who earn more money than us are MORE important. That celebrities are MORE important. That the person we are falling in love with, is MORE important. That someone who hires us, is MORE important.
Some parents even feel that their children, are MORE important than they are…

Fact is, you ARE important. Everyone is. Every child, every woman, every man, every flower, every tree, every animal – the list goes on. We are all important.
In the very act of you being born – proves you are of importance.

Every child you have, was supposed to be born…
Every person alive, is supposed to be here. Everyone, has a purpose.

This is not to say, we should all walk around with a self-inflated ego.
Rather, know this about yourself: I MATTER.

Always remember and remind yourself: I matter and I am important, when… applying for a new job, when socializing and networking with others, when falling in love, making new friends, starting a new business venture, when you’re with your children,
when you’re with your parents, when you’re in a meeting,
when you wake up in the morning, when you go to sleep at night.

If you wasn’t important – you wouldn’t exist.

Be Guided…

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Mara Friedman

People ask me what I do, when I’m in need of some guidance, and I always say
“I talk to my guides… they show up and give me signs.”

Yes, we all have them… Guardian angels, spirit guides, ancestral guides,
joy guides, master teachers, helpers, runners, animal totems, archangels, angels,
higher self, deities, the creator, the divine…
We can call on them whenever we want, for whatever we want.

I always call on my ‘runners’ as I leave the house to help find me
parking spaces and they always do.

If I’m contemplating whether I should go on a date with someone,
butterflies will show up. 1 for no, 2 for yes.

If I am on the fence about attending a party or an event,
I will often see a group of birds or animals.
On a few occasions, I’ve looked up to see a balloon in the sky.

When I see a feather or a hummingbird, it is a sign to have fun that day…

In my meditations, the wolf, or a pack of wolves will show up…

Sometimes I’ll ask my spirit guides a question and they will
speak to me in my mind’s eye.

It is possible to get signs everywhere… By turning on the radio and hearing a song,
by reading a billboard, a bumper sticker, overhearing a conversation,
a paragraph in the newspaper, magazine, book. Nature, animals, dreams,
people… You can even see signs on people’s clothes.

If you ask, it shall appear. And the more you ask, the more they appear.
It is truly magical… And who doesn’t want a magical life? Practice communicating with your guides, and always remember, to thank them for their signs and messages.

Fall in love, with YOU…

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So many of us are looking, searching for the love of our lives…
So while you wait for that soul mate to walk into your life,
to sweep you off your feet, to give you all the things you desire…
and all the things you need… I suggest you fall in love with yourself first!

Stop waiting, looking, or searching. And get busy.

Write down what you love and appreciate about yourself.
Write down what kind of person you are and what you bring to the table.
Write down what you want in a partner.
Know what you’re good at, great at, and what you enjoy.
Talk to yourself with kindness, treat yourself with love,
give yourself compliments and thanks.
Look in the mirror and say “I love you.”

You do all of this with loved ones, without hesitation or embarrassment…
Know that the most important thing in life, is to love yourself.

Next, write down things that brings you joy… reading a book, taking a walk,
cycling, going to the movies, taking a bath, going dancing, painting,
eating at a nice restaurant, doing a sport,
going to the theater, comedy show, concert, spa, bowling,
hanging out with friends… etc.

Then, next to each activity, write down how often you can commit to doing these things.
If you love taking baths, can you realistically commit to having one a week?
If you love going to the movies, can you realistically commit to going once a month?
Then start doing them. Get busy with falling in love, with YOU!

I assure you, when you start falling in love with you…
treating yourself with kindness and love,
commit to doing things that bring you bliss… validate, compliment yourself…
you will be more of a complete person, hence you will attract a more complete partner.

Stop waiting for others to give you the love and support you need – give it to yourself.
You have to know love, to give it. Be the person you want to attract.
Then you can attract an extraordinary person who deserves your love.
When you fall in love with anyone – know YOU are special too!

The truth about lying…

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Some clients are obsessed with not being lied to… I guess most people are.
Their partners lied, their kids lied, their parents lied, their friends lied,
their boss lied, the world lies…
The truth is, we all lie to ourselves more than we lie to others.
In fact, we lie about 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 times a day, some
3 times in every conversation, and some up to 200 times a day…

So, the question is not: Why lie? The statement is not: We should not lie.
The truth is: We all do. The question is: Am I willing to take the
appropriate action knowing the truth?

When others lie to us… it is unacceptable, inexcusable, and deemed punishable.
When we lie to others/ourselves… we make excuses; lying about the lies we tell others/ourselves, and are often in denial about the lies we tell…

So… let’s take responsibility for the way in which, we lie to ourselves…
For example: Maybe you’re not willing to leave a cheating partner.
Maybe, their lies keep you from telling yourself the truth.
Maybe… you don’t have the courage/it’s not a good time/you don’t have the confidence/you need their money/you want the lifestyle they provide/you’re afraid of being alone/you want the health insurance/you need a perfect image/afraid of the unknown/you fear the responsibility of action. And so on…

We all have reasons, for buying into the lies we are fed.
And it is usually because of truths we don’t want to face.
But we are so busy with being upset with those who lie to us…
that we forget: We lie to ourselves first.
It takes two. Me, and you.